Like you I have started a new journey. My spouse of40 yrs recently had an unsuccessful hip surgery ( bad luck falls where it may) I now am caregiver and manager of our lives, there is no certainty only hope.
so true, not all new journeys are ones we would have signed up for. i'm sorry to hear about the unsuccessful surgery. my mother actually had the same thing when she had her hip replaced a decade or so ago, it's so frustrating. hang in there. you're definitely not alone going through these hard things.
Omg! Just subscribed to your Substack newsletter and catching up on your archives and YouTube videos,,,! I thought I had an idea of what you went through but I had no idea really. You are a masterpiece and a model for living life to the fullest and taking nothing for granted. I’m so sorry you suffered so much and so happy it is over and you are reborn with all the nonsense we all fret about never likely to interfere with you again.
So happy to have found you on Substack. I have missed your voice. Figuratively and literally. This was a beautiful description of emerging from the much trauma.
Wishing you all the best. Good health. Joy. Connection.
Love hearing your voice, your humour, your thoughtfulness so clearly through your writing. Curious to know more about what is happening in that beautiful noggin of yours. Salmagundi- lol love it. Had to look that one up.
I’ve debated leaving a comment. A lot. I guess Column A won. We’re neighbours. Or were. I honestly don’t know if you still live where my buddy Bill N. used to spray for Dog Strangling Vine. He never told me exactly where you lived and I never asked. None of my business. And Bill was too discrete. He just assumed because I used to work for Discovery Channel that we knew each other other. Nope. Anyway to my point: five years ago my wife and I were in a pretty grisly auto accident. My wife suffered a head injury. At first it presented as a non stop headache. Then things got worse. These days we’re dealing with memory loss and what the Dr. seems to think is slow moving dementia. Or something like it. Every day is a challenge. For both of us. I recently watched a show on Netflix with Ted Danson where he plays a widower. Turns out his wife died of Alzheimer’s and Danson finally breaks down and admits to his daughter that as his wife’s caretaker he was “out of his depth”. I heard that and started to cry.
And yet…..
Maureen remains very much herself. She can still laugh. We try to go for walks up at the Hastings field house every day. I cook good food. She still knows a good wine from plonk. It’s just everything is………..harder.
I know from previous media that you’re a cancer survivor. (Same here). Yet you remain positive. This is inspirational to me. I shall look for your next post. Stay warm. They say we’re gettin’ a doozy week of snow. Cheers.
good ole bill n, he was great but the DSV is still a menace. nothing to be done...
i am so sorry to hear about all that you and your wife have been through. good heavens, that's a lot. and yes, being the caretaker is the untold story, isn't it? i always think that my husband had the hardest go, in some ways, holding things together for our family throughout all my periods of illness. most people just worry about the patient, but the caregiver suffers too.
i am so pleased that you are finding some comfort and even inspiration in my musings here, thank you so much for reading. hang in there and i hope you find beauty and awe to help carry you through the hard stuff. that's what works for me. there will be much awe and wonder out in the woods after all this snow! and the dsv is well buried for now at least;)
"What has emerged is a darling newborn of possibility, a willingness to explore new things."
What a beautifully crafted line.
Thank you for sharing the challenges of those endless seven seasons and for the reminder to fully embrace every precious moment we're given.
Can't wait to see & hear what you do next!
So glad you are back, Gill!
I LOVE what is happening to Gill Deacon! 🎉
Like you I have started a new journey. My spouse of40 yrs recently had an unsuccessful hip surgery ( bad luck falls where it may) I now am caregiver and manager of our lives, there is no certainty only hope.
so true, not all new journeys are ones we would have signed up for. i'm sorry to hear about the unsuccessful surgery. my mother actually had the same thing when she had her hip replaced a decade or so ago, it's so frustrating. hang in there. you're definitely not alone going through these hard things.
Bravo very inspiring thank you for sharing
Omg! Just subscribed to your Substack newsletter and catching up on your archives and YouTube videos,,,! I thought I had an idea of what you went through but I had no idea really. You are a masterpiece and a model for living life to the fullest and taking nothing for granted. I’m so sorry you suffered so much and so happy it is over and you are reborn with all the nonsense we all fret about never likely to interfere with you again.
awww, you're the best susie d. thank you! yes, hallelujah and cheers to a midlife renaissance;)
Glad you found you – and glad to have found you, again. Best wishes, and following, from The Rock.
Glad to hear you are back!
So happy to have found you on Substack. I have missed your voice. Figuratively and literally. This was a beautiful description of emerging from the much trauma.
Wishing you all the best. Good health. Joy. Connection.
Thanks for the update. I’ll stay tuned. You are a breath of fresh air!
Thrilled to hear that you are doing well and enjoying exploring your curiosity!
This post hits at the 💛 of why we were so excited to have you on the Reframeables podcast - episode coming out soon!
Love hearing your voice, your humour, your thoughtfulness so clearly through your writing. Curious to know more about what is happening in that beautiful noggin of yours. Salmagundi- lol love it. Had to look that one up.
I love the headstand photo where everything is upside down and yet you seem to embrace this new perspective. I’m so glad to see you pull through!
I’ve debated leaving a comment. A lot. I guess Column A won. We’re neighbours. Or were. I honestly don’t know if you still live where my buddy Bill N. used to spray for Dog Strangling Vine. He never told me exactly where you lived and I never asked. None of my business. And Bill was too discrete. He just assumed because I used to work for Discovery Channel that we knew each other other. Nope. Anyway to my point: five years ago my wife and I were in a pretty grisly auto accident. My wife suffered a head injury. At first it presented as a non stop headache. Then things got worse. These days we’re dealing with memory loss and what the Dr. seems to think is slow moving dementia. Or something like it. Every day is a challenge. For both of us. I recently watched a show on Netflix with Ted Danson where he plays a widower. Turns out his wife died of Alzheimer’s and Danson finally breaks down and admits to his daughter that as his wife’s caretaker he was “out of his depth”. I heard that and started to cry.
And yet…..
Maureen remains very much herself. She can still laugh. We try to go for walks up at the Hastings field house every day. I cook good food. She still knows a good wine from plonk. It’s just everything is………..harder.
I know from previous media that you’re a cancer survivor. (Same here). Yet you remain positive. This is inspirational to me. I shall look for your next post. Stay warm. They say we’re gettin’ a doozy week of snow. Cheers.
hi rob, thanks for leaning into column A:)
good ole bill n, he was great but the DSV is still a menace. nothing to be done...
i am so sorry to hear about all that you and your wife have been through. good heavens, that's a lot. and yes, being the caretaker is the untold story, isn't it? i always think that my husband had the hardest go, in some ways, holding things together for our family throughout all my periods of illness. most people just worry about the patient, but the caregiver suffers too.
i am so pleased that you are finding some comfort and even inspiration in my musings here, thank you so much for reading. hang in there and i hope you find beauty and awe to help carry you through the hard stuff. that's what works for me. there will be much awe and wonder out in the woods after all this snow! and the dsv is well buried for now at least;)
thanks again for taking the time to write,
all best
gill
How did you heal?
i'm working on a post that will outline in detail what worked for me. coming soon.